You Will Be Shocked About What Women Want

Before you can decide whether or not to commit to a person, you need to know what you're looking for and what they are looking for in a partner. While more superficial qualities like good looks and sexual chemistry come into play, there are a few other must-have characteristics women look for in a man they hope to spend the rest of their lives with.

Below, we rounded up Nine essential things women look for in a man. Read on if you need a few pointers.

Be an intuitive and empathetic listener.

This is truly the basis for many of the positive traits you'll see on this list. The reason is simple: If you want to know what your partner wants, you have to listen to them.

In theory, being an intuitive and empathetic listener sounds good, but sometimes it can be hard to understand what it looks like in practice. It means being present (not just waiting until it's your turn to talk) and able to follow the rhythm of a good discussion and adapt to it. It also means picking up on details and remembering to bring them up later. If this sounds like work, it's because it is: Being a thoughtful listener is a skill that must be practiced, honed, and worked on regularly.

Be communicative and honest.

In the same way that you would like your partner to articulate their needs directly to you, they very well might be feeling the same thing about your communication style. It should not be your partner's responsibility to solve your emotional states like some mystery and vice versa. "Couples that don't learn to consciously communicate will face issues when it comes to intimacy, conflict, and relational growth.

Be respectful of other women.

Speaking ill of the women in your life, like an ex-girlfriend or boss, can be interpreted that you don't respect women as a whole. Of course, not everyone is going to have perfectly pleasant interactions with the people in their lives, women or otherwise. However, it does read as questionable when you make blanket statements like "crazy" or "unreasonable" without being able to articulate why you feel this way. Be mindful of how you speak about women in general.

Understand the nuances of consent.

No woman wants to date a man who makes her feel unsafe, hard stop. So first and foremost: Understand the basics of enthusiastic consent. And from there, as you explore the boundaries of your sexual relationship, remember that it will likely involve a series of conversations about what piques your interest, what doesn't, what you're comfortable with, and what you are not. Use these conversations to move the relationship forward, and don't clam up at the first sign of confusion.

Value personal space.

When you enter a relationship, you might be tempted to let your life slide to the wayside. And as you develop said relationship, your lives start to converge naturally anyway. The result? The line between alone time and time together starts to lean in the latter's direction. Being partners doesn't mean you have to—or even should—do everything together. Needing space does not necessarily mean your relationship is doomed. It can be a healthy sign that you're prioritizing yourself as an individual both inside and outside of your relationship. It didn't matter what you do in your spare time, so long as they were engaged in something outside of the relationship, be it a hobby, side project, or a group of friends.

Be affectionate.

There are many ways to show your love—and people respond to signals of affection differently. It's commonly referred to as "love languages".

One of the best traits, a man can develop in himself as he dates different women is variety. As long as you're showing the woman you date that you care about her in different ways—verbally, physically, with favors, time, or gifts—you'll cover your bases. And then as you grow closer with one partner, you'll be able to parse out the nuances of your specific love languages. But having a strong, diverse foundation of showing affection is a good place to start. It's also a great way to keep the relationship interesting long term.

Be generous.

Like listening, generosity is a value that acts as an underlying current in many other traits. "Generosity is important in every part of a relationship. Giving and accepting affection, doing things for one another to make life easier, forgiving each other, and keeping your partner sexually satisfied all require a generous heart," Carroll tells us.

Have emotional intimacy with others.

It's not wrong to view your partner as a friend or even best—but it's entirely another thing to view your partner as the only friend you can turn to talk about your interior world. On that note: A significant other is not a therapist. And if you are dealing with deep emotional problems, you should seek professional help to clear up the issues. It places too large of an emotional burden on your partner to be your sole sounding board—and an even larger one to assume they might have the advice you're looking for.

Be open to being wrong.

Defensiveness is a deeply human reaction. "We are all wired to protect ourselves, and this can lead to defensive behavior," says Carroll, explaining that all relationships experience defensive behavior at times. "But if you find that either you or your partner is always on guard, waiting on the front lines to pounce into a defensive mode of communicating, it can be deeply harmful to the relationship."

The problem arises when your defensiveness gets in the way of empathizing with your partner or admitting when you've done something wrong. (If you find yourself consistently stringing with The most direct way to get over defensive behavior is being self-aware, acknowledging when it happens, understanding where it's coming from, and communicating your feelings with your partner.

These lists are not intended to be exhaustive each individual is unique.

below, represent a good starting point from which to begin building a basic understanding of essential maleness and femaleness.

In the very first chapter of Genesis we are told that “God created man in His image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them” (Genesis 1:27; emphasis added). The implication is clear: the distinction between the sexes is not only basic to human nature, but it’s also uniquely reflective of the divine. In some way we cannot fully grasp it, it presents us with a visible image or picture of the unseen triune Creator.

To this last thought, we should add that, while the Bible does underscore the importance of the male-female dichotomy, and while it does represent this dichotomy as being fundamental to human nature and offers us some basic principles, it does not give us an itemized description of maleness and femaleness, nor does it tell us exactly how this distinction is supposed to be played out in many of the details of everyday life. For that, we have to look to God’s design in creation and try to draw some conclusions based on our observations there. In the course of this investigation, we must make sure that the differences we posit are genuinely creation-based and not merely culturally determined. They must be humanly universal: internationally, inter-culturally, and historically consistent and valid.

Photo gallery

It was an awesome time. We had a #Deep...Direct...Downtoearth talks about certain issues in most relationships and marriages. Some men had some questions of their own.

Our anchor, Pastor E. C. Proper-Prosper aka Son of man, aka the main guy introduced the speakers as they individually explained what they want as women.

HOTR choir His Habitation Ministering

House on the Rock, Eket Kicked off with #HisHabitation giving God some quality praise

Meanwhile the morning session- Thanksgiving service

This service was full of worshiper participation as well as special ministration viz- Pastor Victor Egwu, Eno Eva, the dance crew (De Elite Dance)and instrumentalists, lots of congregational singing and dancing.